A while back, my husband read a bit of creative writing I was working on and this was his feedback:
"Its good, but there are too many characters. It's just too hard to follow."
Fast forward to today, or at least the last six months. Working with Dan MacIvor, an Action Coach, I've learned that in order to succeed at something, I need to work on ONE thing. And through all of my learnings, teachings, and living, I've found myself returning to focus on Yoga For Divorce.
Through my research, I came across an article in the Huffington Post (https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-yoga-will-teach-you-_b_8221742), by Karen Covy, from 2015. Covy gives her top ten things you will learn about divorce through yoga. Each one resonated with me, validated the path that I'm creating. Out of her top ten, I'll pick my top three, those that I feel reflect my top three goals in starting this practice - a Yoga Therapy practice, specializing in group and one on one sessions. Please join me on Monday, May 24th at 2pm for a complementary webinar on what Yoga for divorce looks like at YoGail Studio.
MY TOP THREE out of Covy's top ten!! I'm taking some liberties here, and interpreting these benefits in my own way. Covy's article is really great, and I recommend reading that too.
Its the little things that get you. - The stress that comes up during a mediation session, or during court proceedings are expected. But when the small reminders around the house, or in conversation, pull you right back to that vulnerable and enraged space, having a practice in place to help soothe the nervous system is priceless. Time on the mat gives opportunity to practice those techniques, so when we are taken aback, we can get back up more gracefully.
If you want to get better, you have to show up. - Just as an athlete practices their sport, a musician, their instrument, etc. a practitioner of stress reduction practices and refined movement must also practice. As you practice, you become stronger, more confident. Showing up does not mean HUGE SHIFTS right away. Coming back, week after week, committing to yourself will lead to the following:
You reap the benefits when you least expect it. Imagine; you've come to class for the last three weeks, but reluctantly so. A friend signed you up for this course, even paid for it, so double guilt if you missed. You breathed along with everyone else, who seemed to be "getting it," what ever that meant. Then suddenly you look down at your phone and you see a text from your ex that triggers your rage. Thankfully you're in public, so throwing chairs is out of the question, even if it is only optics. Then you remember that breathing technique you've been faking your way through, and maybe playing a little with it here and there. But now, now that breath technique is giving you power over your rage. Its not necessarily "fixing" anything, but you do not feel powerless. And THAT is just enough to keep showing up.